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Connection

6th June 2020
(Delhi NVC Practice Group)

A young boy as he shares about his connection with his father. NVC practice group of Delhi seems to have helped him a lot. He says "I can't express enough my gratitude towards this NVC community, to have helped me connect with my father". 
I felt very heavy in my chest while thinking of my experience on connecting with others. I had someone in my mind to share about but I've been speaking mostly about my issues with that person, so I stopped myself to say anything on the same again. 
When Mona said that she's trying to explore about what connection means to her, it echoed with me. It'll be my journey as well to think about connection. 
a). Is it when the other person agrees with me?
b). Can one also be connected with merely a willingness to hear. One doesn't have to agree with me. 

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